halflife
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- Mar 1, 2013
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- 137
First, let me get this out:
Please excuse the recent 'radio silence' -- haven't been well. I do read the postings here most every day on my mobile, but writing, I can only pull off in fits & spurts, very slowly. And it has to be on what passes for a good day to complete a substantial post. In fact, it took me several sessions over a couple of days to pen this.
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As I do too often here, I need something -- advice.
Perhaps Mr. Jewbacca or 1 of our many other smart members could offer their opinions. I'll just post the facts:
Wife & I disabled. My wife got SSDI for back problems first application a few years back, I'm still fighting somehow -- just being looked at now by an ALJ after 2 years + (applied 12/2011)
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My question already!
Just a few years we were doing pretty darn well $$ -- I didn't always make smart $$ decisions though.
Then, healthwise we went south -- neither could work. Pure co-incidence we got sick the same year. My wife had a decent private disability policy. Self-employed, I had no backup -- never dreamed I'd lose my beloved 'net & PCs as a means of making $$ so abruptly.
Hopefully, my endless wait for SSDI will end shortly (my wife got SSDI first time out, about 6 weeks after appl!).
Got good people helping us too. Multiple Drs. readily state I'm fully disabled; it's obvious to a child even. Once I have a hearing, I can't imagine another denial!
But the caprices of the disability process do scare me...
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We live off my wife's disability, our savings & gifts from Mom when things are tough.
About 80k in consumer debt. Right now we make onerous payments each month. I know I'm a fool -- we had some great vacations in the decade preceding illness though /default_smile.png
FYI; S-Y was never part of the problem.
Never a late payment though now we're paying many bills from savings rather than from earnings as we easily did for 35 years or more.
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In-Law Solution
My BIL & SIL are all but insisting we file bankrupctly to "erase" the debts & not pay them.
We still have a fairly decent amount of seizable assets which the BIL advised us to spend first. Many are Blue Chip stocks which have done quite well of late. What would we even spend it on? Well, suppose I could become a VIP at OF /default_smile.png
Would give some to nieces/nephews of course. However, we're only mid-fifties & obviously in a precarious state now.
BTW, I'm aware most retirement vehichles are protected from seizure.
My Take
Why not use those assets for the debt you may ask? Well, this may be dumb but right now, given our very precarious state (other legal issues in our life...), I'd rather have $$$ close at hand until I have SSDI income coming in.
Bankcruptcy at this stage of life is personally humiliating. The inconveniences of entering older age both disabled & financial pariahs is less than appealing in this brave new world we've found ourselves in.
BTW, as we pay down credit cards, they reduce our credit limit proportionably. Therefore, if we spend our remaining savings & either file bankruptcy (or use the $$ to pay off debt), we'll truly be living hand to mouth with nothing to fall back on regardless of how much we are willing to 'pay' for $
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My Solution
Hang in there a couple of months, I say. Once I'm on SSDI, a 401k can be partially tapped without the severe tax penalties as I understand it.
Right now, there is about 350k in 401/403 plans.
I could live with taking 80k out of 401ks rather than be paying this miserable interest.
We still have reasonable 401k balances by US standards as sadly I've read average 401 accounts are woefully underfunded & overborrowed by employees -- often for good reasons.
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My Conclusion
I will bring in a fairly healthy SSDI monthly stipend soon enough. Between that & my wife's plan, we could live quiet, more stable middle-class lives again.
We'd still have a fair amount of savings left.
My accountant agrees with my proposal, BTW & he's a smart, honest man.
We'd have our pride...
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Would truly, truly appreciate anyone's thoughts on the 2 solutions to eliminating a large debt!
Feel free to be frank!
Thanks
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Please excuse the recent 'radio silence' -- haven't been well. I do read the postings here most every day on my mobile, but writing, I can only pull off in fits & spurts, very slowly. And it has to be on what passes for a good day to complete a substantial post. In fact, it took me several sessions over a couple of days to pen this.
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As I do too often here, I need something -- advice.
Perhaps Mr. Jewbacca or 1 of our many other smart members could offer their opinions. I'll just post the facts:
Wife & I disabled. My wife got SSDI for back problems first application a few years back, I'm still fighting somehow -- just being looked at now by an ALJ after 2 years + (applied 12/2011)
=======
My question already!
Just a few years we were doing pretty darn well $$ -- I didn't always make smart $$ decisions though.
Then, healthwise we went south -- neither could work. Pure co-incidence we got sick the same year. My wife had a decent private disability policy. Self-employed, I had no backup -- never dreamed I'd lose my beloved 'net & PCs as a means of making $$ so abruptly.
Hopefully, my endless wait for SSDI will end shortly (my wife got SSDI first time out, about 6 weeks after appl!).
Got good people helping us too. Multiple Drs. readily state I'm fully disabled; it's obvious to a child even. Once I have a hearing, I can't imagine another denial!
But the caprices of the disability process do scare me...
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We live off my wife's disability, our savings & gifts from Mom when things are tough.
About 80k in consumer debt. Right now we make onerous payments each month. I know I'm a fool -- we had some great vacations in the decade preceding illness though /default_smile.png
FYI; S-Y was never part of the problem.
Never a late payment though now we're paying many bills from savings rather than from earnings as we easily did for 35 years or more.
________
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In-Law Solution
My BIL & SIL are all but insisting we file bankrupctly to "erase" the debts & not pay them.
We still have a fairly decent amount of seizable assets which the BIL advised us to spend first. Many are Blue Chip stocks which have done quite well of late. What would we even spend it on? Well, suppose I could become a VIP at OF /default_smile.png
Would give some to nieces/nephews of course. However, we're only mid-fifties & obviously in a precarious state now.
BTW, I'm aware most retirement vehichles are protected from seizure.
My Take
Why not use those assets for the debt you may ask? Well, this may be dumb but right now, given our very precarious state (other legal issues in our life...), I'd rather have $$$ close at hand until I have SSDI income coming in.
Bankcruptcy at this stage of life is personally humiliating. The inconveniences of entering older age both disabled & financial pariahs is less than appealing in this brave new world we've found ourselves in.
BTW, as we pay down credit cards, they reduce our credit limit proportionably. Therefore, if we spend our remaining savings & either file bankruptcy (or use the $$ to pay off debt), we'll truly be living hand to mouth with nothing to fall back on regardless of how much we are willing to 'pay' for $
_______
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My Solution
Hang in there a couple of months, I say. Once I'm on SSDI, a 401k can be partially tapped without the severe tax penalties as I understand it.
Right now, there is about 350k in 401/403 plans.
I could live with taking 80k out of 401ks rather than be paying this miserable interest.
We still have reasonable 401k balances by US standards as sadly I've read average 401 accounts are woefully underfunded & overborrowed by employees -- often for good reasons.
------------
My Conclusion
I will bring in a fairly healthy SSDI monthly stipend soon enough. Between that & my wife's plan, we could live quiet, more stable middle-class lives again.
We'd still have a fair amount of savings left.
My accountant agrees with my proposal, BTW & he's a smart, honest man.
We'd have our pride...
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______
Would truly, truly appreciate anyone's thoughts on the 2 solutions to eliminating a large debt!
Feel free to be frank!
Thanks
1/2