Well this is actually very heartbreaking but I do need advice. Before I start, just got off the phone with an uncle of mine even though it's after midnight seeing it was serious.
Alright, so here's the story. A family member of mine recently had a stroke and is in the hospital so I'm taking care of their house and pets while they're at the hospital. My younger sister tends to stop by to relax sometimes which is perfectly okay seeing nothing has ever gone wrong plus I was cooking some burgers and fish (around 7-8 PM). I was cleaning the house up a bit and asked her to please clean up some of her stuff seeing she leaves absolutely everything everywhere, not even kidding she leaves things on the floor, under tables, doesn't use the trash can most of the time which is quite disgusting.
That seemed to piss her off once I asked her to please clean up some of her stuff so the house can remain presentable incase a neighbor or anyone stops by, well it set her off to the point where there was a lot of verbal abuse coming from her along with punching me, shoving, trying to provoke me to hit her (I'm her brother) however I would never hit a woman under any circumstance. She kept yelling and ranting about absolutely everything while being very physical not allowing me to get away. The moment I decided just to go into a bedroom within my family members house and lock the door she stood infront of it, grabbed me by the neck and hair which was absolutely strange why she was acting like this.
I had to hold onto her arms with my hands to stop the hitting seeing I had two seizures in the past few days and I couldn't handle such things seeing I was very weak today after all the things that happened before and after the seizure. I had to push her away to create distance, lightly of course to prevent any further harm to myself and merely go in the room, lock the door and wait. She has been very destructive, throwing things around at me personally and around the house just messing the house up completely. Remember, this isn't my house this is a family members house that I do not own so such behavior can really destroy the house and with the economy being pretty bad not everyone can afford to fix any damage done, just want to make sure when their out of the hospital their house is as good as new just how they left it.
So, here I am locked inside a bedroom trying to figure out what to do. She is on drugs (narcotics, weed, etc) which are used in a recreational way and I believe the drugs mixed with the stress we both have caused her to be this way. The issue is I'm absolutely clueless on what to do here seeing I would hate to see my little sister go to jail so I can't call the police and I don't want to worry my family too much, however I did have to call my uncle which is a retired police officer for advice on the situation and it pretty much boiled down to calling the police which I didn't do. Not to mention now that the family is getting involved I have no idea what to expect seeing she has good ways to stretch the truth and potentially turn them against me.
I'm not sure guys and gals, this is very rough which is why I'm asking for advice. The sibling is in her 20's and had plans to go to rehab however seeing the family member had a stroke and she was living with that family member shes unable to attend her rehab. I'm not fully sure what I did that caused this nor am I sure what to do, it's a very sensitive subject to deal with. I want her to have a good life and live her life to the fullest but if shes going to treat family members like this...it's just heartbreaking seeing she's probably treating others like this aswell which will prevent her from having a good life.
Perhaps anyone has had a similar issue or could shine some insight on what would most likely be the best thing to do here? Even though I'm an adult I still never expected this to happen especially from a family member. This has been going on for over two years now, she abused most if not all the family we have left and we're all clueless on what to do besides putting her in jail to learn a lesson or something along those lines...we've held off doing that for her well being seeing shes still family you know?
Well, I know I sound like a wimp in this situation but I'd prefer not to retaliate against a woman attacking me seeing I'm a male. Males should never harm females, that's what I was taught as a child decades ago and I plan on keeping that. I assumed locking myself in a room would be the best bet to avoid any injuries that could of occurred and make sure I'm just out of her way so to speak.
Any and all advice would be appreciated. Sorry for the long message, just wanted to get the major details out there.
-VII
Alright, so here's the story. A family member of mine recently had a stroke and is in the hospital so I'm taking care of their house and pets while they're at the hospital. My younger sister tends to stop by to relax sometimes which is perfectly okay seeing nothing has ever gone wrong plus I was cooking some burgers and fish (around 7-8 PM). I was cleaning the house up a bit and asked her to please clean up some of her stuff seeing she leaves absolutely everything everywhere, not even kidding she leaves things on the floor, under tables, doesn't use the trash can most of the time which is quite disgusting.
That seemed to piss her off once I asked her to please clean up some of her stuff so the house can remain presentable incase a neighbor or anyone stops by, well it set her off to the point where there was a lot of verbal abuse coming from her along with punching me, shoving, trying to provoke me to hit her (I'm her brother) however I would never hit a woman under any circumstance. She kept yelling and ranting about absolutely everything while being very physical not allowing me to get away. The moment I decided just to go into a bedroom within my family members house and lock the door she stood infront of it, grabbed me by the neck and hair which was absolutely strange why she was acting like this.
I had to hold onto her arms with my hands to stop the hitting seeing I had two seizures in the past few days and I couldn't handle such things seeing I was very weak today after all the things that happened before and after the seizure. I had to push her away to create distance, lightly of course to prevent any further harm to myself and merely go in the room, lock the door and wait. She has been very destructive, throwing things around at me personally and around the house just messing the house up completely. Remember, this isn't my house this is a family members house that I do not own so such behavior can really destroy the house and with the economy being pretty bad not everyone can afford to fix any damage done, just want to make sure when their out of the hospital their house is as good as new just how they left it.
So, here I am locked inside a bedroom trying to figure out what to do. She is on drugs (narcotics, weed, etc) which are used in a recreational way and I believe the drugs mixed with the stress we both have caused her to be this way. The issue is I'm absolutely clueless on what to do here seeing I would hate to see my little sister go to jail so I can't call the police and I don't want to worry my family too much, however I did have to call my uncle which is a retired police officer for advice on the situation and it pretty much boiled down to calling the police which I didn't do. Not to mention now that the family is getting involved I have no idea what to expect seeing she has good ways to stretch the truth and potentially turn them against me.
I'm not sure guys and gals, this is very rough which is why I'm asking for advice. The sibling is in her 20's and had plans to go to rehab however seeing the family member had a stroke and she was living with that family member shes unable to attend her rehab. I'm not fully sure what I did that caused this nor am I sure what to do, it's a very sensitive subject to deal with. I want her to have a good life and live her life to the fullest but if shes going to treat family members like this...it's just heartbreaking seeing she's probably treating others like this aswell which will prevent her from having a good life.
Perhaps anyone has had a similar issue or could shine some insight on what would most likely be the best thing to do here? Even though I'm an adult I still never expected this to happen especially from a family member. This has been going on for over two years now, she abused most if not all the family we have left and we're all clueless on what to do besides putting her in jail to learn a lesson or something along those lines...we've held off doing that for her well being seeing shes still family you know?
Well, I know I sound like a wimp in this situation but I'd prefer not to retaliate against a woman attacking me seeing I'm a male. Males should never harm females, that's what I was taught as a child decades ago and I plan on keeping that. I assumed locking myself in a room would be the best bet to avoid any injuries that could of occurred and make sure I'm just out of her way so to speak.
Any and all advice would be appreciated. Sorry for the long message, just wanted to get the major details out there.
-VII
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