It’s been many years since I’ve talked to a lot of family members over my abuse of drugs. I’ve done a lot of things I’m not proud of, and honestly was ashamed to even speak to many of these people. I have finally contacted many of them and apologized and tried to make things right. These are people I assumed I’d never talk to again. If anyone here is in the same boat, I would say it’s worth a try to reach out and try and reconnect. Many accepted my apologies with tears of happiness. very few are still bitter and unwilling to accept an apology. The worst case scenario is they are unwilling to accept a genuine apology. I am very glad I have decided to do this, even though I was very reluctant to do so. The worst case scenario is that you hear an earful (which is likely fair). I feel like a weight has been lifted off my chest, and I feel like this may benefit many members here. Best of luck to all of you.
Burnt bridges
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@Contressa Im so happy you were able to do this and that you feel happy about the results! You’re really brave. I’ve been in a similar situation due to my consistent drug use(addictions at times) and the fact that my family is hyper religious in a church in which use of any substance (including alcohol and nicotine) is totally forbidden. The church is actually a cult but for whatever reason mainstream media has been persuaded to portray them as quirky oddballs despite their rampant homophobia, sexism, racism, etc
Regardless, I’ve gone years without talking to them because I assumed they assumed the worst, and turns out they usually do, and I hate that, but it certainly was a huge relief when I initiated contact and have at least established a communicative relationship with them .
anyway, that is very kind of you to reach out. I’m so sorry so many won’t accept your honest apology. Whatever damage you may have caused them personally i think it’s grimy of them to decline honest apologies and just so sad that family can be unforgiving and judgmental especially in regard to something as delicate to navigate as drug dependency.
Anyway thank you so much for sharing and congratulations on what sounds like a really healthy life progression.
love to you!
Regardless, I’ve gone years without talking to them because I assumed they assumed the worst, and turns out they usually do, and I hate that, but it certainly was a huge relief when I initiated contact and have at least established a communicative relationship with them .
anyway, that is very kind of you to reach out. I’m so sorry so many won’t accept your honest apology. Whatever damage you may have caused them personally i think it’s grimy of them to decline honest apologies and just so sad that family can be unforgiving and judgmental especially in regard to something as delicate to navigate as drug dependency.
Anyway thank you so much for sharing and congratulations on what sounds like a really healthy life progression.
love to you!
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Sweet Ol' Me asked about Real ID, Stoup. Are you responsive to emails ? LMAO
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I smell some Stoup. Is Stoup's on ?
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@bigblueallda You win. I am lost. Thought you were surprised your license was a Real ID, now you say you provided those items.
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@bigblueallda I was under the impression that you'd need all of the points to get a real ID . I'd check it's validity if you're gonna fly domestic any time soon, just to make sure. Not to tell you what to do, sorry -
- B @ bigblueallda: @drjimmy1964 In my state to get a Real ID, I need SS card, Birth Certificate and two proofs of residency. Which I am positive I had to provide to get a new ID when it had been expired.
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@Turbo259 advertising - putting in writing for example an negative action to show they are guilty prior to taking action.
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@Turbo259 advertising - putting in writing for example an negative action to show they are guilty prior to taking action.
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@bigblueallda are you sure you have a Real ID ? I mean , they really want 6 points of proof and 1 for your addy and 1 for your SSN. Did you maybe get it done and forgot and flew out of the country or something ?
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@bigblueallda are you sure you have a Real ID ? I mean , they really want 6 points of proof and 1 for your addy and 1 for your SSN. Did you maybe get it done and forgot and flew out of the country or something ?
- S @ soupson: did anyone ask about real id or is sweet ol jimmy just rambling
- T @ Turbo259: @drjimmy1964 what did you mean by advertise? not gettin the verbiage, DM works if anything, just didnt understand
- B @ bigblueallda: {Visit your local Driver Service Bureau with the necessary documents: original birth certificate, Social Security card, and two proofs of your state's residency. } I definitely provided this when I had to get a new ID when i let mine go expired too long maybe I unknowingly got one but I think it is pretty standard here.
- B @ bigblueallda: Well it was a state id renewal. Before that there was a mixup and I had lost my birth certficate and social security number. After a couple of weeks and finally getting several documents in order I was able to get a state ID. It had been expired previously for a little too long and they wanted all kinds of proof. It was a mess. But nah I looked up what to look for an my state's ID to see if it is a Real Id or not and my card as the symbol it is supposed to have. I'll take a closer look though
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@bigblueallda are you sure you have a Real ID ? I mean , they really want 6 points of proof and 1 for your addy and 1 for your SSN. Did you maybe get it done and forgot and flew out of the country or something ?