Read. Get your yer post count up commenting on relevant experience, (play5 letter games it help..lol...talk Bout pets..there ARE threads) check out international lists...donate to be able to see the SY vendors if ur one for opies....get that 50 cnt post so you can get into email.only. My fave. Lost? Unsure if u can say it? ASK. madame 2earls and Catinthehat, our two lovely mods/spokeswomen. pretty soon you will be able to private message people as well with regards to their own experience W products if u see them on, let's say..the international list. They can guide you on wait times, better brands etc. Its been a real god send for me. Xoxox.