Do you tell your better half about this?

[cassandra]

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[mamfor2manykids]

I'm in the same boat. We've been married for 21 years, and there are just certain things I don't share. My online "vitamin" purchases is one of them. I even opened a second bank account, that I only have access to. I am careful about what I order. I'm already on a lot of vitamins, prescribed by my "vitamin" MD. So if I happen to have a package intercepted by the hubby, I'll just say, "They were cheaper this way!" and "They were having a sale!" He likes sales, and knows that my insurance co. won't  pay for certain "vitamin combinations" and dosages. Well, the extra supply....we won't discuss that. I really hope I don't ever have the occasion to go there though. I kind of like things the way they are. Me, perfectly and secretly content on my mail ordered happy pills.

 

[Cloudy]

We have been married 20 years and together before that.  My husband knows I take alot of vitamins, but he doesn't ask about cost of anything and I don't tell him.  Since we are both retired our income is very low, so I have to really watch any purchases.  I make sure that if I do make a purchase just for me, I take it out of something else.  I won't lie to him, but it isn't worth a big fight to bring it out in the open

 

[Shmokey]

Been together over 7 years, I'd feel too bad subscribing to any magazines without her knowing. We're in this together

 

[brandon74]

@ShmokeyCouldn't agree more.  In a sense; if you have to hide it from a spouse and again to each his own; seems like you don't have an understanding spouse.
Guess I'm lucky @mamfor2manykids

 

[PTFC]

She doesn't like it, it worries her, that's why I've more or less given up any recreational use, which is/was rare regardless, but I have never lied about it. 

 

[blissopifree 2]

I keep it on the QT as id be worried she'd ask me to make orders for her.She is prescribed medications allready in low doses and I know she'd self medicate in large amounts so better to keep things quiet justnow anyway.

Peace 

Bliss....

 

[Fishtail]

So glad this topic came about. I've often wondered the same. I can't tell my spouse. He'd go off the deep end! However, I started to feel really guilty about the habit, and found a new vendor offering Kr@tom. I've been using that for a few days without ANY of my vitamins to get off of them. I have to say that it works, just missing my sleep for the past few nights. Not terrible though. I told him about that one product and order. He was fine because it was cheap and a legal product. 

 

[2earls]

My husband knows about my purchases and my job. I think he gets a little jealous of the time I spend here, but he doesn't make a fuss about it. I don't go out of my way to tell him how much I spend and he probably doesn't really want to know.

Like another member stated earlier, as long as the bills are paid and he isn't footing the bill, then I am a big girl and should be able to decide for myself if it's worth the cost. 

I think if I started acting peculiar or it was evident that I took too much, then he would certainly have the right to complain about that.

 

[2earls]

@cassandra73 that sounds awfully drastic if you have an otherwise happy marriage. Have you tried having a discussion at a time when he's not angry to explain your feelings about the matter? 

I remember the last time my husband made a disparaging remark about my meds, we were going for a walk along the river and I said "but you do realize that if I didn't take them we would not be doing this right now?".

Tell him you are not being reckless or irresponsible; you are taking them to be more productive. And maybe also explain that the worst thing that could happen is you get a letter from customs that you just throw in the garbage bag. You have to win him over so that even if he never exactly approves, he won't be angry.

I know, tell him they make you feel very sexy towards him lol (sorry guys). If I could get my husband to believe that he would be ordering them for me!

 

[Curlylocks]

Our partners worry about us, I don't want to give mine more to worry about. 

I am my prescription drugs and off this site I top them up. I have have only just joined this this and am waiting for my packages. I am going to say they are diet pills, he will worry about them enough as it is.  I'm  not overweight want to lose a few pounds. That is all true.

They don't need to know everything and anything, sometimes it's better to be quiet. 

 

[Handsley]

"But I do love him. He's just- not easy to live with, but neither am i according to him"

I always thought the perfect marriage/relationship would be to live in 2 houses next door or even across town and just hang out once in a while, but not every day.  You take care of your house and I take care of mine

 

[Biteme]

I don't talk to my wife about it & she doesn't ask. I feel a little guilty about the money, but mainly because I should be saving it for my daughter, but I justify it since she spends tons on clothes and various Amazon junk, some of which just gets thrown out. And I still manage to put a good amount aside for my daughter.

 

[Meowtown]

Yes and no.

Just easier to not give too many details.