How To Make A Stubborn Man Go To The Doctor?

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My husband is so stubborn when it comes to his health. If I so much as sniffle, he's on the phone scheduling me a doctor's appointment. But he could be coughing up a lung, bleeding out his ears, and have a broken neck and still refuse to get a checkup. I'm really worried about him, because he threw his back out a couple weeks ago, and it only seems to be getting worse, but he refuses to take the time off work to go to the doctor. I'm afraid he's going to damage it even more in the meantime, because he works a very physically demanding job.

Any advice on how to convince a stubborn man to actually go to the doctor? I've already tried the argument: "You wouldn't let me neglect my health." But he just comes back with: "But I don't have your health issues. It'll heal. It just needs time." I think going on three weeks is more than enough time!

 
That, unfortunately, is some damn good advise. I'd consider a prostate exam if I was promised twice in one day! I hear they have a new digital exam anyway. I've never had a PE, but surely this digital device can't be too bad. /default_wink.png  

But seriously, for me, I'd fall for the "If you loved me" line. But I can be more sensitive than some guys, and it would in fact be true. No doubt I'd go if I heard "If you love me and do it, I'll show how much I love you back..." That way you tug at both strings. Err, I mean a string and a rope of course.  /default_rolleyes.gif

 
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All right gentlemen, I'm going to heed your advice and try to work my womanly-wiles. I do think I'll go the route of bribery over withholding/punishment though, especially since the back-pain has put a bit of a damper on our sex life anyway.

 
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My husband will do just about anything Dr. Phil tells him to. Dr. Philacio, that is. Usually involves more of danglingthe carrot then anything.

 
This is what my wife told me when I was to stubborn to follow up with the neurosurgeon, "if you don't care enough about yourself to make sure you are ok, then I don't either." I came home to a empty house the next day. Needless to say I scheduled a appointment with the neurosurgeon as I had been told to do months earlier. She came back the next day and life's been good ever since.

 
Render him unconscious, in the nicest way possible of course- transport/relocate him to his doctors office. When he wakes up, you could say something like " I am so glad you changed your mind and decided to take care of your health and schedule this appointment."    /default_biggrin.png

Really though, a lot of men are very stubborn when it comes to their own health, and going to the doctor when they should. I do hope he has agreed to go by now and is feeling better /default_smile.png

 
It's Almost impossible!! Mine has such good insurance at work that pay for everything and he still won't go!

 
Don't know much about general doctors, but as regards mental health:

Impossible if they are 18+ or whatever the equivalent is in other countries. I was forced to see mental health workers up until that point and after that I have to sign waivers in order for a parent or sibling to represent me, which I have not done.

The only realistic way would be to destroy whatever trust there is between you and the other by attempting an involuntary commitment. If he's anything like me, he knows the sort of thing that lands you there (e.g. threat to oneself, threat to others, perceived high risk for any of the former things occurring, etc). Contrary to popular belief, these doctors cannot read minds, so tell them what they want to hear and they have no case to forcibly imprison you.

Also, they're not terribly bright (after all they get paid by the amount of patients, not the quality of their inquiry). They'll try to lead you down paths to incriminate yourself. Be wary of leading questions, don't mention suicide, or vengeance, hard drugs, or in OPs case, mention willful attempt to avoid medicine even if not taking them could lead to death. Don't mention any weapons or exit plans that you may have. Play it cool and you'll walk out with a script for generic anti-depressant X (or in your case narcotic pain killer X) which I usually toss in the can on the way out.

Further, in my experience, it has to be cut and dry with no ambiguity. I've been straight up asked by people holding these forms how I felt about suicide, substance abuse, etc. I just lied and they were forced to let me go.

It's on the loved ones to prove incompetence and until that point, the patients word is final .

Message brought to you by m3th, the ramble maker.

 
Either oral favors or poison you husband, not to kill him but find something that will make him sick like exlax.

 
Do you expect anything less from me TL?

I'm not sure what that =0 means but I know it can't be good.

 
Yeah good luck with that. Mine would take the favor and still not go. Lol! And then look at me with that face. And then, well......i better go to sleep now. It is late.

 
I'm still in he dark about what this means. You ladies are ganging up on me.

3 against 1 is not fair!  You ladies better get some more help if you're going up against the headbanger!

 
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