Im leaving him

[SaintAlien]

It's all in the depression thread and I'm on a time limit so I must be hasty in writing; I about everything here (it's all new) - but I want to purchase reproductions of art deco. So I'm deciding what to do

I just wanted to write this down since I must place nice till the kid goes on spring break next week.

 

[PTFC]

I think it was inevitable SaintAlien, there is nothing left for you there. Getting out is the right choice . 

 

[girlgerms]

Why do you have to leave? Cant he leave, since you are the one who has a child and have been injured recently?

Im about to make a big move in my relationship too. Hope it dosnt get too messy. Unfortunatly for my limp-dicked soon to be ex- this is my property and house. Unfortunatly for me, according to all these right-wing bible -thumping white people; to kick out such a " decent, respectable, hardworking gentleman" is cleary a sign of mental illness and instability. If one more of these backwoods hillbilies suggest that I could save the world if I just attended church "more regular" I will lose my fucking mind. 

I dont know about art deco reproductions, do you mean you need to replace some art originals with some fakes?  I love it. I dont care what mine takes. My artwork collection consists of things my kids drew in grammar school. Besides my art collection, theres only 1 item I couldnt replace. And its worth probably under $200 to buy. But that russian SKS was my dads. He taught me to shoot it before I was big enough to lift it. Its a bad ass gun and not something youd want shoved up your ass,  all my old mans guns are  bitch guns.  Why would a real man have a  .22? Or a single shot revolver?. I am afraid of the double barreled shotgun, but when I looked at his ammo catche,, most of the shells are birdshot. Wtf? Haha.

Sorry to hijack your thread. I got some add meds that ive not had before and  Im having trouble shutting the fuck up. Im just going to go fix some things that arnt broken now

Dont let this bring you down  I sometimes find a couple Machiavelli quotes helpful in these situations:

If“All courses of action are risky, so prudence is not in avoiding danger (it's impossible), but calculating risk and acting decisively. Make mistakes of ambition and not mistakes of sloth. Develop the strength to do bold things, not the strength to suffer.” 

And my personal favorite:

If an injury has to be done to a man it should be so severe that his vengeance need not be feared.

 

[VII]

We fully support you, Saint. As the old saying goes, go with your gut feeling seeing your gut generally is right majority of the time. 

As silly as this may sound, a restraining order might be optimal. You can never be too safe, generally with adult breakups/divorces the male (sometimes the female) won't give up seeing they have a feeling they won't find someone else to spend their life with. Having a restraining order or a protective order would be ideal for this to prevent any harassment that might come along with it, hopefully it won't. 

If you find yourself being abused by him directly or indirectly from third party sources I'd highly suggest going to the police and going into protective custody while they investigate the situation due to the fact no man should ever harm or abuse a woman under any circumstance. It's the first thing written in the gentleman's code so to speak.

If this is not the case, just get far away from him unless there's a custody battle which can be tricky. From what I can see, you'd win the battle if it's his child. 

There's so many go-to sources at your disposal, you're perfectly safe either way. As I said before if you feel there's danger involved check out what was stated above, myself and many others out there won't want anything to happen to you. I'm not saying this to worry you, not at all I'm simply stating all of this as generalized knowledge for future readers and personal advice. 

I personally have not experienced this and hopefully never will, so I can't fully understand what you're going through but I can only imagine. You're a very strong and independent woman that deserves to live her life to the fullest and we're all here backing you up knowing you'll make the right choices down the road. You're also very intelligent, no doubt about that so I may sound dumb compared to you on this subject. However your level of intelligence is higher than an average person, that I do know. 

I wish you the best of luck and please keep us updated on the progress, we'll be here every step of the way right beside you.

Take care,

-VII

 

[girlgerms]

Lol. I mean, omg. I thought he was just banging somebody else?  Where did she posts that he kicked her ass? Forgive me if Im missing something but ...you dont put a protective order on somebody just because they fuck someone else and wont like you back on Tinder. Being a asshole is not against the law.

Maybe you big city people are different, but I would never go into protective custody, call the police and or have a "investigation".  If someone wants to kill you, a protective order or safe house cant prevent that. You have to be able to protect yourself. No man has has ever abused or tried to beat me up. Reason being, I've let it be crystal clear: If you lay your hands on me like that, I will fucking kill you or at the minimum, trust me, you will wish you were dead. Accidents happen. Sometimes people just disappear.   Then again, Since Im a little runt who loves kittens, babies, conservation, recycling, volunteering, believe in unicorns and I cry nearly every day over news stories about the cruelty people in this world inflict on their fellow man,  I am quite incapeable of something like revenge. They will say

Maybe Im just crazy but  I just feel like if someone is harrasing you, to the extent of needing the cops...getting a lawyer, advocate or whatever; thatjust makes it go on longer. Best thing to do is turn the table and make their life so damn miserable they will be begging you to leave them alone. To just stop.  You cant just be weak and go try to find some man or authority figure to protect you.  Go all in. Fuck em. Show no mercy; not to their mother, their pets; property, coworkers, children, its all fair game. If you think thats too much,going to far? Well then guess what?  You aint being harrased then. Someone calling you a cunt  and taking your favorite cd's when they leave is not abuse or harrasement. Someone calling you a few times on your private number and hanging up does not necessitate police intervention. People need to toughen up and quit acting so victimized. And being so damn gullible. You never tell someone they are smarter then you...unless you're running game. It Shows weakness. Best way to be a friend in the situation you descibe  is not to baby and coddle someone and give them domestic shelter phone numbers. You tell them to get their crippled crying ass out of the bed and learn how to cut brake lines, how to shoot a gun, how to prepare a hot shot.

Chances are, its just a vent and nobodies going anywhere anyway.

I love you bitches so much <3 you have no idea.

 

[trinity]

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