Welcome Willow,
Your confusion will clear up soon, but you'll always be learning if you pay attention. There are some sharp folks posting, often no other reason than to help their fellow members...pretty amazing for a group of people who may never meet.
You'll soon identify patterns in posts, the graceful dance around sensitive topics, and the unique style each member brings to the forum.
Take it slow, trust your gut and ask a Moderator if you REALLY get stumped.
Take Care,
Beranda