Problem finding a doctor who will listen

[bittersweetsymphony]

Okay so this might be a long post but here goes. I've had scoliosis since i was 13 but the scoliosis wasn't that bad back then. 8 years ago i got pregnant with my son and the extra weight really did a number on my back. They call it a double major curve and every doctor who has done a X-Ray (mostly in the ER) has told me that i am lucky i am not blind because of the severity of the scoliosis. It seriously makes my lower back muscles so tight that it hurts to move. I did have a doctor who was treating me with 0xy and n0rcs who was run out of town by the head of the hospital he worked under. I will admit he was writing a lot of PKs for a lot of people and that i did have an addiction problem that i was able to kick last year (Anything with 0pies was like candy to me).

Until a month ago i avoided doctors because 1) They will blacklist you if they think you are 'doctor shopping' and 2) I began having panic attacks even while in the waiting room to see a nurse practitioner or even waiting with my son to see his doctor. But then the pain began to get worse so i thought i would go see a new doctor in town who no one really knew much about. The first time i saw him i told him about my stomach problems and he gave me something for IBS (when it is probably just an ulcer) and left without hearing me out about other problems i have (like asthma or the aforementioned scoliosis). I decided to give him another shot (pun intended because i need a birth control shot) and see if he would hear me out this time.

Long story short i asked him to become my primary doctor and he said he couldn't because my birth control went against his personal beliefs. So at that point i wasn't even going to tell him about my back and just left. Well the pain hasn't subsided but has been helped by a few places here and for that i am grateful. But i know i will need surgery probably sooner rather than later and it's not like i want to get back on the 0xys or anything with 0pies really. It doesn't help i live in a county where *almost* everyone who gets help doesn't actually need it. So does anyone have any advice or maybe been in the same situation? How can i find a doctor that will listen, not judge me on my past and maybe even help me with the pain or even in getting the back surgery?

Thanks in advance for any advice and i hope i haven't broken any rules by posting this.

 

[KAL]

Okay so this might be a long post but here goes. I've had scoliosis since i was 13 but the scoliosis wasn't that bad back then. 8 years ago i got pregnant with my son and the extra weight really did a number on my back. They call it a double major curve and every doctor who has done a X-Ray (mostly in the ER) has told me that i am lucky i am not blind because of the severity of the scoliosis. It seriously makes my lower back muscles so tight that it hurts to move. I did have a doctor who was treating me with 0xy and n0rcs who was run out of town by the head of the hospital he worked under. I will admit he was writing a lot of PKs for a lot of people and that i did have an addiction problem that i was able to kick last year (Anything with 0pies was like candy to me).

Until a month ago i avoided doctors because 1) They will blacklist you if they think you are 'doctor shopping' and 2) I began having panic attacks even while in the waiting room to see a nurse practitioner or even waiting with my son to see his doctor. But then the pain began to get worse so i thought i would go see a new doctor in town who no one really knew much about. The first time i saw him i told him about my stomach problems and he gave me something for IBS (when it is probably just an ulcer) and left without hearing me out about other problems i have (like asthma or the aforementioned scoliosis). I decided to give him another shot (pun intended because i need a birth control shot) and see if he would hear me out this time.

Long story short i asked him to become my primary doctor and he said he couldn't because my birth control went against his personal beliefs. So at that point i wasn't even going to tell him about my back and just left. Well the pain hasn't subsided but has been helped by a few places here and for that i am grateful. But i know i will need surgery probably sooner rather than later and it's not like i want to get back on the 0xys or anything with 0pies really. It doesn't help i live in a county where *almost* everyone who gets help doesn't actually need it. So does anyone have any advice or maybe been in the same situation? How can i find a doctor that will listen, not judge me on my past and maybe even help me with the pain or even in getting the back surgery?

Thanks in advance for any advice and i hope i haven't broken any rules by posting this.

Ever since the D3A"s war against Drs who prescribe pain meds started most Drs are scared to write pain meds especially to new patients. I would g00gle <Drs who will prescribe pain meds in my area *with your area code*> I've had Drs stop treating me cause they thought I was shopping, I've seen Drs known to write scripts easy lose they're licenses, lately they have access to all your prescriptions so you can't see more than 1 Dr for pain meds. First time you see a new Dr they will actually look up all your prescriptions filled in the last 1~2 years. The other night a pharmacy refused to fill my script because I used a different pharmacy last time to refill and my Dr had raised my dosage. So I made them call my Dr who OK'd it, the only reason I used a different pharmacy for pain meds was my usual pharmacy was out. I noticed it's easier to get pain meds written to you then actually finding a pharmacy to fill them. I used to just see the local less known Drs, I've found them to not to panic that maybe they're writing too many scripts. Couple years ago I found a Dr who was very liberable when writing scripts till people from other places who were shut down started piling in her office for pain meds. She would tell me to stop going to pharmacies that had to call her to OK certain prescriptions, she then raised her price from $60 a visit when I started seeing her to $250 a visit cash only for pain patients. Eventually she started dropping all her pain med patients who have been there awhile.  She would say I can only see you a few more times & to find a new Dr because theirs a limit on this how much I can write of this medication. BTW; isn't it illegal for Drs or anyone to base something on they're beliefs against birth control? You must live in the Bible Belt region I'm guessing? 

 

[bittersweetsymphony]

I've never had a problem with the pharmacies (there are only 2 in this town) but they have given my husband (who they know since they all grew up together) a hard time when he went to pick up meds for my mother even after she called and let them know he would be coming to get them. I thought it was illegal as well, the doctors oath and all that. Yeah, i live very close to the bible belt so it kind of carries over. I even told my husband that unless he is only treating 90-year-olds or people who can't have children then he has to be writing for birth control.

It's just getting so frustrating. There is a so called Dr f33l g00d a few towns over but i am weary of using him as he will retire in the next few years and i have been told that if i was to go see him that i would be blacklisted from doctors in the surrounding counties just for being associated with him. I know someone who had a DR similar to yours who would raise the price of the visit just because she was going in for @dds. She got in trouble for Dr shopping and had to find a Dr in another state. Heck, up until a few years ago there were quite a few people who would drive from other states to see a Dr here that was very loose with his prescription pad until the D3A caught on and he fled to some tropical island somewhere.

Thank you so much for your advice   I will try to g00gle and hopefully find someone.