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So where I’m visiting, mail gets delivered to a Central Mailing Unit (whatever those things are called, those big metal mailboxes where everyone goes and gets their mail from with a key with everyones mailbox on the same street)…
And my man, brother in law and sister in law are a bit nosey or at least on edge about non-transparency and stuff like that….
I want to order a mag… but I do not want to answer any questions about what it is thats coming—I do have a Debit/Credit card coming in the mail… and just did an auto insurance policy, so I feel like maybe those would be sufficient excuses for whats coming in the mail? (I order from addyexpert, and he sends usually in a flat envelope)
If I were to write…. “Delivery instructions: leave at the door” would that work?
Is it bad ediquette to ask the deliverer (aka my vendor) to put a false name like… say… my moms name? So it looks less conspicuous?
Or to put it in a bigger package that would require doorstep delivery via USPS?
Or to ask them to ship it fedex or UPS?
I do not want to be rude…
Is it bad ediquette to ask them to throw in like, a hair product I need/use from walmart if I gave them the $$ to pay for it so I could have an excuse, my pills, and everything covered?
Just at a loss with how to go about this in the smartest way possible, and my brain is running 100x miles an hour rn.
What could I have prepared to say I got in case someone asks?
I could say its my mom sending me some paperwork for the insurance policy, or something with my sister who is in court and i’ll just say I am docusigning it back??
Idk… kinda lost with this one.
No car so cannot get a PO box for myself and go get discretely…
Don’t leave this house, I’m not from here…
I could say its a gift but then what do I have prepared?
Do I order something else and have it come around the same time?
Idk, I’m just nervous but really want my pack…..
Any suggestions welcomed… Thanks.
And my man, brother in law and sister in law are a bit nosey or at least on edge about non-transparency and stuff like that….
I want to order a mag… but I do not want to answer any questions about what it is thats coming—I do have a Debit/Credit card coming in the mail… and just did an auto insurance policy, so I feel like maybe those would be sufficient excuses for whats coming in the mail? (I order from addyexpert, and he sends usually in a flat envelope)
If I were to write…. “Delivery instructions: leave at the door” would that work?
Is it bad ediquette to ask the deliverer (aka my vendor) to put a false name like… say… my moms name? So it looks less conspicuous?
Or to put it in a bigger package that would require doorstep delivery via USPS?
Or to ask them to ship it fedex or UPS?
I do not want to be rude…
Is it bad ediquette to ask them to throw in like, a hair product I need/use from walmart if I gave them the $$ to pay for it so I could have an excuse, my pills, and everything covered?
Just at a loss with how to go about this in the smartest way possible, and my brain is running 100x miles an hour rn.
What could I have prepared to say I got in case someone asks?
I could say its my mom sending me some paperwork for the insurance policy, or something with my sister who is in court and i’ll just say I am docusigning it back??
Idk… kinda lost with this one.
No car so cannot get a PO box for myself and go get discretely…
Don’t leave this house, I’m not from here…
I could say its a gift but then what do I have prepared?
Do I order something else and have it come around the same time?
Idk, I’m just nervous but really want my pack…..
Any suggestions welcomed… Thanks.
