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Johnintennessee

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I’m 30 years old now, I’m a first generation American (My mother is Central American) so it’s very common to have a wife and kids by this age. But TBH it just doesn’t really suit me.  Throughout my life I’ve had about 4 LEGIT girlfriends. Usually I’ll just talk to a girl I meet for a while have some flings and move on to the next. I don’t lie to do the women I hook up with and a lot of em understand the “friends with benefits” thing and the fact that I don’t want to settle. I’m an only child and all my cousins are married already with kids. HOWEVER, they all seem very unhappy and depressed to me. They married the first girl that touched their wieners and all of them have so much drama in marriage. I’m honestly beginning to believe marriage may. It be a thing for me but I do want kids and I feel I should enjoy my life that way when I do settle down with a girl I’ve gotten it all out of my system and won’t miss it. ANOTHER issue is.. A lot of girls I’ve hooked up with have cheated on their BF’s with me so that just sort of makes it a bit harder for me to have a trust with a girl I want to settle down with. Anyone else have this dilemma or want to throw in your .02 cents?

 
Honestly life just turns to SHIT, If you let it.....!!!    I say keep doing you...   just dont be upset if you end up with saggy nuts old and alone....     

 
Johnintennessee said:
I’m 30 years old now, I’m a first generation American (My mother is Central American) so it’s very common to have a wife and kids by this age. But TBH it just doesn’t really suit me.  Throughout my life I’ve had about 4 LEGIT girlfriends. Usually I’ll just talk to a girl I meet for a while have some flings and move on to the next. I don’t lie to do the women I hook up with and a lot of em understand the “friends with benefits” thing and the fact that I don’t want to settle. I’m an only child and all my cousins are married already with kids. HOWEVER, they all seem very unhappy and depressed to me. They married the first girl that touched their wieners and all of them have so much drama in marriage. I’m honestly beginning to believe marriage may. It be a thing for me but I do want kids and I feel I should enjoy my life that way when I do settle down with a girl I’ve gotten it all out of my system and won’t miss it. ANOTHER issue is.. A lot of girls I’ve hooked up with have cheated on their BF’s with me so that just sort of makes it a bit harder for me to have a trust with a girl I want to settle down with. Anyone else have this dilemma or want to throw in your .02 cents?
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                 I'm in the same shoes as you, only I'm 36. I've been married once before and divorced once before, own my own home, car paid off, no kids and life is great! Do I wish I had kids sometimes? Sure. I think one day I'll have maybe one, but if its not in my cards, its not. I'll enjoy life the same. I wouldn't let anyone give you a timeline on how you should live your life or tell you when you should have kids. Because as you can see, they are "unhappy and depressed" which eventually leads to a divorce. Society is so quick to be cookie cutter and follow fads and trends with marriage and kids. I also am the guy the the girl cheats with, yet it feels wrong, its just too damn easy without any added pressure/commitment. Be selfish, be picky, because you know women are. If you rush into something, it never works out. Trust is big nowadays and until you find someone that suits your needs, dont settle.

 
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