Six Feet Under

[dp2327]

In the last few days I have seen so many people suffer after a loss of a loved one to suicide, I thought I would start this thread to see how many of you have experienced this and would be willing to talk about this subject. Also, even though this is morbid and no one really wants to think about this, but how many have everything planned for when that time comes and we are taken away by natural or other causes. TBH I have never put in writing exactly what I would like, but after seeing my daughter struggle with the decisions for her father, I feel I need to get this penned out as I never want to think of her having to make those decisions while grieving ever again. We never know what tomorrow will bring....

 

[Babsy]

I lost my brother whoso took his own life aged 26. He was the most liked funny admired person I knew he had tonnes of friends.

His problems started when he left the Army. He felt very isolated and found it almost impossible to find a job. He became paranoid and lost all confidence in himself.

It tore our family to bits 350 people turned up to his funeral.

The last words he ever wrote ( in his suicide letter ) were ' Catch you Later ) He was found beneath a viaduct he had jumped off.

RIP Ross Barber we as a family miss you everyday.

All the best..

 

[Maybesomeday]

Haven't lost anyone to suicide. Thank goodness. Y'all are definitely in my prayers. We did lose my gma Jan. 2 of this year and while she did have a plot ready next to her husband, that was it.

Having to scramble to choose a funeral home, casket, service type, etc etc etc plus come up with funds to pay for it all was pretty stressful. I hope to never put a loved one through that (at least the financial part) It is very hard to do all of that while grieving the loss of a loved one.

I've seen in the last couple of weeks on TV about a funeral insurance. Next time it's on I'm going to note the website or phone number. The earlier you become insured, generally the less expensive it is.

If anyone has already done these steps, I'd love to know more.

 

[Versus]

Living will, power of attorney, DNR etc. all of these items are a must. As MSD mentioned, you don't want your loved ones to have to make those decisions for you.

 

[Maybesomeday]

Power of attorney ends with death. My aunt found that out the hard way.

 

[Versus]

I lost my brother whoso took his own life aged 26. He was the most liked funny admired person I knew he had tonnes of friends.His problems started when he left the Army. He felt very isolated and found it almost impossible to find a job. He became paranoid and lost all confidence in himself. It tore our family to bits 350 people turned up to his funeral.The last words he ever wrote ( in his suicide letter ) were ' Catch you Later ) He was found beneath a viaduct he had jumped off.RIP Ross Barber we as a family miss you everyday. All the best..

I'm so sorry, there are no words.

 

[dp2327]

I lost my brother whoso took his own life aged 26. He was the most liked funny admired person I knew he had tonnes of friends.His problems started when he left the Army. He felt very isolated and found it almost impossible to find a job. He became paranoid and lost all confidence in himself. It tore our family to bits 350 people turned up to his funeral.The last words he ever wrote ( in his suicide letter ) were ' Catch you Later ) He was found beneath a viaduct he had jumped off.RIP Ross Barber we as a family miss you everyday. All the best..

I can't imagine the pain from losing a sibling. I have tried for the last few days to understand what gets you to that point of no return on that particular day and I still can't. Your brother sounds like he was a great person. 350 people is a lot of love and respect. I am very sorry for your loss.

 

[dp2327]

Haven't lost anyone to suicide. Thank goodness. Y'all are definitely in my prayers. We did lose my gma Jan. 2 of this year and while she did have a plot ready next to her husband, that was it. Having to scramble to choose a funeral home, casket, service type, etc etc etc plus come up with funds to pay for it all was pretty stressful. I hope to never put a loved one through that (at least the financial part) It is very hard to do all of that while grieving the loss of a loved one. I've seen in the last couple of weeks on TV about a funeral insurance. Next time it's on I'm going to note the website or phone number. The earlier you become insured, generally the less expensive it is. If anyone has already done these steps, I'd love to know more.

At least for my daughter they did have funds, except grandma the beneficiary was trying to cut corners. That is why it was so hard on my daughter. Finally she put her foot down and did what she wanted to do for him. She even played Skynard at the viewing. (Much to grams dismay). But she was dealing in the only way she could at that time. Even when there is $ available people need to say what they want or better yet put it in writing if they don't want to plan the whole thing ahead of time. The biggest stress to my daughter was grandma saying "this is what he would have wanted" when she had no clue. I am so sorry about your Grandmother MSD. But from what you have said about her before she was a fine lady and very special to you. I bet you have so many wonderful memories of her.