Well said
@PTFC. I have only truly alone when my brothers and parents died. That was the worst and darkest time of my life, so far. As human beings we ALL face certain and in common things. Loss, fear, existential loneliness and we often walk a path that is neither here nor there
The best advice I had given me and relevant to this. If you are not truly happy within yourself then you will NEVER EVER find that in another person. What you will get is just temporary relief and, for some, this really is enough and you can see them everywhere you go. Age doesn't matter in this group. You will see them, in pubs or gyms mainly, moving onto their next conquest. Personally I cannot live this way and learned this fairly early on. I am grateful of that lesson.
Its the inner journey that brings the biggest rewards or that has been my experience of this, to this point and at 53 years old and recently on my own again. We have remained friends though so that is something I've not experienced before. I will add just one more Polish proverb, one that my father used often. Those who dig holes for others will fall into them themselves.
In closing. I have times where I thoroughly enjoy company but mainly I have grown to enjoy my own company now. I don't feel lonely very much now. I guard my solitude and make sure that I give myself a good amount of that. I find being around too many people very fatiguing and I always have to come back to "myself" to gain my balance and equilibrium back. Maybe it's an age thing and because I am now just turned 53 but, on the whole, I am happier and more often than I am unhappy. I know it's so very cliche but each day as it comes. I have never known the loneliness that came with losing my family before & I would not wish that upon anyone and I mean even those who became enemies.
@trinity I am not in the know here but in the mails I have shared with you, you come across as a well adjusted and balanced man. I am a firm believer in what goes around comes around and I am only now realising that I have had some really nice things happen but I didn't know it at the time and because I was blinded to the acts of kindness by the hatred and fear I was carrying, like my own personal millstone
I certainly wish you and all who have to deal with mentally ill and sick people, all the very best indeed
yes, the highways of lost souls that need not be lost if only they would reach out a hand I still believe that there are more good people than bad and so I feel positive for the future it's a shame that I've been had a few times both financially and in trust but I refuse to allow those bad experiences to turn me cold. I've no doubts that I will be had again and will probably fall for someone who really is not right for me but I believe there is a lesson to be learned in each of these experiences
sorry for the essay Here endeth the lesson
peace