Men, Dating And Sex?

[sadminion]

Same here socilpathicbombeshe..I was the prude i was even called mrs boring in bed by my friends because i viewed sex as something cherish not thrown away to anyone.

Called that by your friends but meanwhile, the boys in high school were probably vying to get at you first. I used to be surprised at how many guys I had slept with that must have slipped my mind....lol..or actually. ..slipped into their imagination. Im super fun once I feel comfortable around someone. Heres a baffling thing to me..casual fellatio??!! Girls who are like, "Oh no! I didnt sleep with him..just sucked blah blah" When I was 17 I was embarrassed to still be a virgin and was asked in a packed room how many guys I had been with...My casual response...not knowing the "norm" ...."Like 30.." Bwahahahaaa. Idiot girl. 

​hahaha, omg that is too funny, i was the exact same way...Oh i know the boys where after me but i stayed true till 18 the age i promised myself i would wait till...I then gave it to my longtime boyfriend..  I dated him from the time i was 12 to very early 20's and we are still friends at 43. I actually let him (get others) because i didnt want too....i would NEVER DO THAT WITH MY FIANCE NOW BUT THEN I WAS NAIVE, and thought that is what i was supposed to do and i loved him and didnt want to lose him....oh well.  Doesnt bother me now so all is well...lol.

but yea once i warm up to someone im with and see there in it for the long haul, sex wasnt a problem..it was a delightful add lol....but not before then ...

I didnt think anyone else was so much like me in that department.  I also hate how people are soooo casual about sex these days...some people youngins go out and have sex with someone else every night, I just dont see how people can do that....disgusting....if u want it that much that bad.  USE YOUR HAND.  Too many diseases out there and then when you find the one, you will always be looking for something better i would think...

my fiance used to get alot of bg's in college, he talks so proud that he held out for sex till he was 18 and was NOT a slut but then he goes on and tells me about all the girls thst went down on him.  I tell him then you where not a virgin, a sex act is sex....if me and him manually do each other we consider that sex so what he did so much like that is sex..

he swears to me its not the same but come on...sex is sex no matter how u do it...and i do happen to find that disgusting....LOL

i go your a slut...LOL hehe...well that was then.....haha, boys and how they think...LOL

 

[yellowbelly]

I just made it back to DBG, and my favorite thread on the board. I need to pop in every now and than, to get the latest updates on Sex Education. (cause what they taught in school was bullshit!) /default_sleep.png

Hope everyone is doing well. /default_smile.png  It's good to be back...! Just busy, busy!

-YB

 

[2earls]

I just made it back to DBG, and my favorite thread on the board. I need to pop in every now and than, to get the latest updates on Sex Education. (cause what they taught in school was bullshit!) /default_sleep.png

Hope everyone is doing well. /default_smile.png  It's good to be back...! Just busy, busy!

-YB

Hey YBeeeeee we've missed you! Hope you have something interesting on the dating front to liven up this thread.

 

[yellowbelly]

I just made it back to DBG, and my favorite thread on the board. I need to pop in every now and than, to get the latest updates on Sex Education. (cause what they taught in school was bullshit!) /default_sleep.png

Hope everyone is doing well. /default_smile.png  It's good to be back...! Just busy, busy!

-YB

Hey YBeeeeee we've missed you! Hope you have something interesting on the dating front to liven up this thread.

​Hey Earls..I've missed you all too.. I'll have to do some catch up reading.. ..My work schedule has gone bat shit crazy in the last month..!! Damn it, don't they understand that everyone needs a life outside of work?!!

Just chillin at the Casa watching a bad ass thunderstorm and lightning show right now, watching the rain fall..!! The highlight of the day...Nothing new to bring to this thread at the moment, but I'm working on it!! /default_biggrin.png

-YB

 

[Meltheangel]

Interesting thread. I love it!

 

[dosterman]

Spread the love!!

 

[Meltheangel]

I learned more on this thread than in my whole life!

 

[blissopifree 2]

I've found that when I've met a girl and have had sex on say the 1st date it allways crosses my mind (that was too easy?).It put doubts in your mind how many times they'd had first date sex and it can be something that puts doubt  in your mind just how much 1st date sex they have had?.

To be honest it really shouldn't matter as long as you have a strong relationship that REALLY should make no difference and perhaps the sex happened quickly as it just felt right as  you only wanted to get close to the person as you could feel the attraction and compatibility between yourselves.It can happen as this was the reality in my last relationship and we were so happy while it lasted,unfortunately it came to an end because of other (jelous) people who didn't seem to like how happy we were in the relationship and spread lies about both of us!.I realised most if not all of it was lies but unfortunately my ex could could not and some of the lies festered in her mind and ended up ending our relationship?.

Ps my ex has bi-polar and I think it was this condition which made the lies harder to dismiss?

I find that some couples can't stand others being so happy which irks them so much that they become (stirrers) to make them feel that they're own crappy relasonship is good?...!!!!.

Peace 

And

Love

Bliss...

 

[Gallon]

A lot of times, the girl will want sex on the first time as well, but afraid if they do, the man will think she is too easy....and will only want them for sex.  This is true and has happened many times.   There are the free loaders as one said, but most women are not...  @sadminion...that was funny about the "but" slip.   ha ha 

 

[Kalsima]

@Sadminion, congrats on getting remarried! I loved you're post! And bombshells, also. I either forgot you got divorced or didn't know. I am going through the same thing you went through. I was married for 17 years and I thought he was the love of my life. Then a visit to my gyno I realized he wasn't quite the prize I thought he was. I've never cheated on him and then I was being treated for stds, most embarrassing thing that happened in my life. And the most hurtful. I was more angry he put my life in danger by not using protection. I tried working it out but I was so angry and so hurt that he never regained my trust. I am now happily divorced but very lonely too.

The idea of sex which I used to love scares the hell out of me. This whole new dating scene scares me too. I do see a therapist but I either have not found the right one yet or maybe it's just me still not open to it yet. 

But reading you're story brought tears to my eyes. I am still fairly young and the thought of being alone for the rest of my life makes me even sadder. You're story gave me hope for the future. I'm not going to rush it but I hope my really bad divorce turns into a great love story like yours. My son moves away to college soon in Denver and I leave Wednesday to look at houses there, but I realize I can't depend on him to entertain me anymore. It's time for us both to go our select ways and let him enjoy his time in college now. Thanks again for giving me hope. I have been stuck in a depressive state and feeling sorry for myself. 

I think I'm going to go shopping for much needed new clothes get my hair blonde and start using makeup again and at least try! Love u much!