Men, Dating And Sex?

[TealGreen]

She is my hero. That guy was a DICK to her.

Wow, you're the first person I've heard defend her. I look at it this way: there have been dick guys since the beginning of time. I've definitely experienced my share in my dating history. I'm not saying it's right but it's part of life, asshole guys and of course females too. In fact, I've been that female that treated a guy or three like shit. I don't think that gives anyone a right to kill said asshole. She's obviously unstable to have killed him in the way she did. She couldn't handle the rejection that everyone experiences at least at one point in their lives. I'm sorry but he did not deserve that. If every asshole deserved to be killed, I could surely be dead right now too.

I would just like to clarify that I was a selfish asshole in my much younger days, I've grown up since then. But I was also smart enough to stay away from unstable males. That is where Travis went wrong. He messed with the wrong female. A clearly psycho female.

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[polygraph]

I need help. I've been on this board forever talking about my stupid tr@ms and shipping times and what not. But now that my pain is under control and I feel better, I have found myself slipping into an affair against my husband. The man is about 20 years older than me yet has a son my age. I live in a small town and he is my closest neighbor.

Before you judge me, I have yet to have sex with this man but my desire is out of control. We kiss and touch and find any excuse to be together. I've been married close to 10 years and have 2 perfect children.

Advice on how to stop desiring someone is welcome. My husband is a great provider and father but lost sexual interest in me eons ago. I first thought it was my weight but I have lost so much recently that the wind can blow me away.

So seriously, how do I stop loving a man when my husband is so cold and distant? I've passed him subtle hints that I am still young-ish and crave attention but my husband just seems to see me as some kind of house ornament. He refuses most all sex advances from me. He just says he believes this is the natural course of a relationship.

What is natural is for me to crave the touch, taste, and feel of a man. I am about to get exposed because this man is so deeply in love with me that he can't hide his feelings much longer. I can't either.

Tell me how to fall out of love. Please.

 

[PTFC]

That's a hard one polygraph, I think you might have answered your own question though, "cold and distant". You have fallen out of love. With your husband.

I am not judging you either, I wouldn't blame you with what you have posted! I am male though, so perhaps a sisters advice would be more appropriate or at least more welcome than mine!

 

[Guest]

Tell your husband DIRECTLY that your marriage is in trouble and why. Men dont get "hints". See if you can salvage your marriage. Leave the other guy alone if you try to salvage your marriage.

If you dont want to salvage your marriage, leave your hub. Living a "double life" will do you no good. But make damn sure this man wants the same things as you do, and not just sex.

I am no one to give advice..,but then again, I have been there. Exactly there. And I know I did the right thing, I left my husband. I left my husband because I told him our marriage was in trouble...several times. He ignored me.

I do NOT have dhildren though.

If you ever want to talk privately, please PM me Ploygraph. I know EXACTLY how you feel.

 

[Bloom]

I need help. I've been on this board forever talking about my stupid tr@ms and shipping times and what not. But now that my pain is under control and I feel better, I have found myself slipping into an affair against my husband. The man is about 20 years older than me yet has a son my age. I live in a small town and he is my closest neighbor.

Before you judge me, I have yet to have sex with this man but my desire is out of control. We kiss and touch and find any excuse to be together. I've been married close to 10 years and have 2 perfect children.

Advice on how to stop desiring someone is welcome. My husband is a great provider and father but lost sexual interest in me eons ago. I first thought it was my weight but I have lost so much recently that the wind can blow me away.

So seriously, how do I stop loving a man when my husband is so cold and distant? I've passed him subtle hints that I am still young-ish and crave attention but my husband just seems to see me as some kind of house ornament. He refuses most all sex advances from me. He just says he believes this is the natural course of a relationship.

What is natural is for me to crave the touch, taste, and feel of a man. I am about to get exposed because this man is so deeply in love with me that he can't hide his feelings much longer. I can't either.

Tell me how to fall out of love. Please.

The best advice I can offer is counseling. Marriage counseling - individual therapy. I wouldn't go straight up honest with your husband - because that plants a nasty seed of distrust. Just start at the blurred line - which is a repair attempt. Give him the opportunity to make a repair attempt. This takes time. Counseling. Or if he's a strong communicator - you can repair your marriage together.

Because here's what can happen when a marriage ends - you have an affair - no alimony. He fights custody, wins - and you just lost your children. No money, no children - ugh - you'll be devastated...but will your affair survive the emotional turmoil? Likely not. What guy wants to listen to a bunch of drama, which distracts from the sex? Let me answer this for you - no man.

If you think I'm being a bitch - read the "So I'm getting a Divorce" thread on DBG. It's a nasty process - and even the strongest fighters have to throw in the towel. No one wins in divorce. My former spouse (also known as Douchenozzle) was as cruel and cold as they come. No sex. No attention, affection, praise...a true narcissist with no empathy for anyone. But he was prepared for battle - and he won. This round. But years of litigation remain ahead - because I'll fight for my children 1^999,999,999 harder than I'll fight for anything in my lifetime.

Sex feels great if there's trust and respect. Sex also fades, like the stars of Orion.

Keep the faith.

Bloom

 

[polygraph]

Bloom, we tried counseling after he had an affair years ago. I forgave the affair for complicated reasons. During counseling, he refused to speak. He just sat there.

I've made horrible mistakes to, so I am not trying to paint my husband as a villain. I think he fell out of love first and maybe I deserved it.

This new man... My husband has been watching us socialize. I know my husband sees how he looks at me. This man is so good that during a moment of intense hugging, I just lost it and begged for him to... You know. He refused and said he won't complicate my situation any further. He said there was no pressure but he would wait patiently for me to make a decision. We since agreed to no further contact beyond friendly hugs and group outings.

This man would marry me in a heartbeat. I think my husband is still having an affair. We all know how this is going to end.

I feel like I'm dying inside. Just fucking dying. I'm sorry to unload. I just want to write about being a real person for once instead of posting about med dates, quality, etc. Love to all of you.

 

[Bloom]

My advice to anyone: Never leave a relationship for a few faults. Nobody is perfect. Nobody is right. In the end, affection is always greater than perfection.

If your husband is cheating on you, and you're cheating on him. - better start the audio recordings, email printouts, text copies and GPS tracking - because no one will "win." Divorce will suck you into a vacuum - and the only ones who truly suffer - will be your children.

If your goal is to be remarried in a heartbeat - bye, bye alimony. And, the children! You have no idea what dying on the fucking inside feels like until you lose your children. And no idea what it feels like for a child to die a little bit everyday. Every single day.

Of course your marriage is going to end. You just want validation. Make your own choices - ALONE. Spend a few years rediscovering who you are, what you'll grow to become - and above all, set a good example for your children. You don't need a man, or sexual temptations to sway you - just time.

Laughter is the best sex! Laughter is a language. Use it often!

And latex, battery operated devices!

LOL!

Bloom

 

[PTFC]

I knew the sisters would come flying in with quality advice! Hope you get things sorted polygraph. Nothing like advice from those who have been there.

 

[Phrenicz]

I used to pick holes in every single one of my ex girlfriends!... I used to make lists of pros and cons? Quite clinical I know, not a part of me I'm proud of : (... However, if I lived in a world of rainbows and unicorns, I suppose me picking these holes meant the person wasn't right?... However, I'm quite pragmatic and don't believe (as many of my friends have said), that when you meet the right person, all them flaws and idiosyncrasies don't matter?.. That idea seems well and truly in the rainbows and unicorns arena!..

I hope I'm wrong, otherwise I will eventually be known as the 'mad single cat man'?!..

Ironically, all the time though, throughout all the relationships, there was me, full of more holes and flaws than anyone Of my girlfriends?.. They didn't come close to my fucking flaws?!.. However, I didn't once stop to think about my own imperfections!.. To reiterate, all I do is think about my own imperfections, just not how they affected my partners at the time?..

Relationships are tough, especially for someone like me?!.. My greatest fear is, as I become more and more set in my ways, the harder it will ever be to meet anyone?... And commitment still scares the shit out of me?!.. I can't arrange anything, without usually bailing at the last minute, or making some ridiculous excuse to get out of it?!..

Guess what I'm trying to say is, I need to change, but I don't really know how to?..

Guess that's also why I'm still single?...

God, that was cheery wasn't it?!..

Sorry, bad day!!

~P~

 

[Bloom]

I used to pick holes in every single one of my ex girlfriends!... I used to make lists of pros and cons? Quite clinical I know, not a part of me I'm proud of : (... However, if I lived in a world of rainbows and unicorns, I suppose me picking these holes meant the person wasn't right?... However, I'm quite pragmatic and don't believe (as many of my friends have said), that when you meet the right person, all them flaws and idiosyncrasies don't matter?.. That idea seems well and truly in the rainbows and unicorns arena!..

I hope I'm wrong, otherwise I will eventually be known as the 'mad single cat man'?!..

Ironically, all the time though, throughout all the relationships, there was me, full of more holes and flaws than anyone Of my girlfriends?.. They didn't come close to my fucking flaws?!.. However, I didn't once stop to think about my own imperfections!.. To reiterate, all I do is think about my own imperfections, just not how they affected my partners at the time?..

Relationships are tough, especially for someone like me?!.. My greatest fear is, as I become more and more set in my ways, the harder it will ever be to meet anyone?... And commitment still scares the shit out of me?!.. I can't arrange anything, without usually bailing at the last minute, or making some ridiculous excuse to get out of it?!..

Guess what I'm trying to say is, I need to change, but I don't really know how to?..

Guess that's also why I'm still single?...

God, that was cheery wasn't it?!..

Sorry, bad day!!

~P~

Ahem! Most cheery thing I read all day! Seriously though, being set in your "ways" isn't always a bad thing...but relationships do require compromise - sadly, a lot of it. Commitment isn't that scary - unless you're Peanut and he dreams of hot chicks and wakes up to find his dog licking him. (Sorry Peanut - couldn't resist!). Flaws - as you call them - make people unique. Yours, theirs...even Mr. Coolguy (sorry, couldn't resist that one either)! The best advice I can offer - is never pretend to be someone you're not. If a woman cannot deal with your "imperfections" - she's not perfect for you.

Bloom

 

[yellowbelly]

Ahem! Most cheery thing I read all day! Seriously though, being set in your "ways" isn't always a bad thing...but relationships do require compromise - sadly, a lot of it. Commitment isn't that scary - unless you're Peanut and he dreams of hot chicks and wakes up to find his dog licking him. (Sorry Peanut - couldn't resist!). Flaws - as you call them - make people unique. Yours, theirs...even Mr. Coolguy (sorry, couldn't resist that one either)! The best advice I can offer - is never pretend to be someone you're not. If a woman cannot deal with your "imperfections" - she's not perfect for you.

Bloom

Lol! I love it.. /default_cool.png

 

[Allhoney75]

Keep the hope alive! That's great that you grew up around a lot of awesome men. That explains why don't settle for less than you deserve. I find that the more I look, the less luck I have. But it does get tedious waiting for the "right" guy to fall into your lap. I'm right there with ya girl! You should try the meetme app. It seems like a great idea because you're around like minded people and there's no pressure to date anyone. I need to free up some time to try it out myself!

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I think I might try this app. I mean what else do I have to lose. Plus it sounds pretty interesting. I'll report back and let you guys know how it's going for me. The hope torch is still burning so I'm gonna hang in there just a bit longer. I just know he's out there!

 

[yellowbelly]

I think I might try this app. I mean what else do I have to lose. Plus it sounds pretty interesting. I'll report back and let you guys know how it's going for me. The hope torch is still burning so I'm gonna hang in there just a bit longer. I just know he's out there!

Never give up on hope, honey..I'm 41 and still single..I date, but just haven't found the right one yet. I just broke it off last week with a girl I was dating for several months, because I felt she wasn't the right one, and it wasn't working out. Keep high expectations for yourself, and put yourself out there. Trying too hard never seems to work. I always find that I meet women when I'm not necessarily looking to...Just live life, and see what falls your way..Never give up! /default_smile.png

 

[Allhoney75]

I need help. I've been on this board forever talking about my stupid tr@ms and shipping times and what not. But now that my pain is under control and I feel better, I have found myself slipping into an affair against my husband. The man is about 20 years older than me yet has a son my age. I live in a small town and he is my closest neighbor.

Before you judge me, I have yet to have sex with this man but my desire is out of control. We kiss and touch and find any excuse to be together. I've been married close to 10 years and have 2 perfect children.

Advice on how to stop desiring someone is welcome. My husband is a great provider and father but lost sexual interest in me eons ago. I first thought it was my weight but I have lost so much recently that the wind can blow me away.

So seriously, how do I stop loving a man when my husband is so cold and distant? I've passed him subtle hints that I am still young-ish and crave attention but my husband just seems to see me as some kind of house ornament. He refuses most all sex advances from me. He just says he believes this is the natural course of a relationship.

What is natural is for me to crave the touch, taste, and feel of a man. I am about to get exposed because this man is so deeply in love with me that he can't hide his feelings much longer. I can't either.

Tell me how to fall out of love. Please.

I've never been married so maybe I'm not the best person to give advice but I will say, I'd give so many things to be married. I think marriage is a wonderful thing and I'd advise you to try to make it work. Talk to your man hon because you do not want to have to get out here in this dating game. It is not fun. I meet many married men who are looking for a little fun and I always tell them, the fun you are looking for with me can be found right there in your home if you allow yourself to discover it. It's just not worth it.

I know marriage can get a little monotonous over time.........even my own parents told me this but try, talk, do everything you can to light that spark back because I'll tell ya if ya lose it all and have to get out here and date, you'll be so depressed. I can't stress enough to married women and men that the game has changed and you'd better hold on to what ya got. People out here are selfish now and it's all about individualism vs collectivism. It's really hard to explain but just please take my advice.

 

[Allhoney75]

We should rename this thread to "Men, dating and no sex!" It doesn't seem like anyone's getting any...

In fact, why not start a thread titled "Women, dating and dildo advice?"

Just make sure to include battery instructions!

Bloom

I'll get to work on this right now............lol. Funny you mentioned dildos. I'll have to find the article but In saw on someone's facebook about life sized male mannequins with detachable peenies. They supposedly feel like the real thing. It was the craziest thing I've read in a long while.

 

[yellowbelly]

I'll get to work on this right now............lol. Funny you mentioned dildos. I'll have to find the article but In saw on someone's facebook about life sized male mannequins with detachable peenies. They supposedly feel like the real thing. It was the craziest thing I've read in a long while.

Yikes! /default_wacko.png

 

[Guest]

Yikes! /default_wacko.png

R u skerred? Lol!

CLEANUP ON AISLE TWO!

 

[Phrenicz]

I'll get to work on this right now............lol. Funny you mentioned dildos. I'll have to find the article but In saw on someone's facebook about life sized male mannequins with detachable peenies. They supposedly feel like the real thing. It was the craziest thing I've read in a long while.

And 8 stone posable ladies too, I believe?... Warm them up in a hot bath for 30 minutes and your good to go?

Or so I've heard?..

**coughs**

 

[yellowbelly]

My buddy had a pocket pussy 20 something plus years ago. He bought it at the strip club we were at, and than put it on top of the tire of my car outside because he couldn't get in the car and didn't want to carry it around. There was 6 of us at the strip club, and when we left, I peeled out leaving the parking lot...My buddy said, "Oh shit, stop the car"! Low and behold, there was his PP out in the road ran over with black marks across the top of the box,. We all laughed so f'n hard, as my buddy turned beet red in the face! Funny how some shit ya never forget.. /default_cool.png

 

[headbanger]

My buddy had a pocket pussy 20 something plus years ago. He bought it at the strip club we were at, and than put it on top of the tire of my car outside because he couldn't get in the car and didn't want to carry it around. There was 6 of us at the strip club, and when we left, I peeled out leaving the parking lot...My buddy said, "Oh shit, stop the car"! Low and behold, there was his PP out in the road ran over with black marks across the top of the box,. We all laughed so f'n hard, as my buddy turned beet red in the face! Funny how some shit ya never forget.. /default_cool.png

LOL we're so depraved in this thread. And who said you never have to pay for ******.