@ElectroNymph I was supposed to have the forms to go over to the new benefit claim back in 2015 but because social services tried to steal my parents house there was a big investigation and a big part of that meant taking MY life apart at a forensic level. I had not I formed them of a lot of things which had gotten much worse. I hate the forms so thought let sleeping dogs lie and all that. The lead guy who was the leader on mums care program and who made the main decisions on her, he was apoplectic with rage that a guy on benefits was driving around in a Porsche 911 GT2 model year 2004. He didn't stop to ask how many years I had saved for it or how long I had worked or how much in savings I had. He was butt hurt that I had a beautiful dream car, too me 22 years of putting by ANY small amount that I could. I ended up with 76K in the building society but, because it took me so long to save, I did not have the balls to spend it. It was my fathers death that changed that & my perspective. I realised this was it, no one would do it for me and life was for living. I spent 18K on a 911 that looked beautiful but was a project car. The salesman persuaded me differently. I was mortified when Porsche centre told me it needed 16K of repairs to make it roadworthy yet it looked perfect. I was extremely lucky ( or karma did me a solid) & I met some Porsche enthusiasts who helped me and thenwork was all bought and done for less than 8K. What I did not know is that the car was the millennium edition , a collector car. Only 911 made. And only 4 in the U.K. I had a very persistent Australian keep offering me in excess of 35K then 40k for it. And thought he was just a joker. One day I said ok then, how you going to pay ? He immediately said cash and from your bank if you like. We went to the bank. & he paid me. 41K. This meant I paid 18K for the car plus 8k repairs so 26k total. I made a profit of around 16K and this allowed me to look at a much higher spec Porsche then I'd ever dreamed of. Anyway, really long story shorter. I bought a polar silver 911 twin turbo GT2. This immediately made me much higher profile and it's what had this lead care guy to actually imply I was "funnelling" Mrs Pirog's money into my own account (sic)
We spoke Polish at home? Ate Polish, lived Polish. I always spoke the la gauge when I visited mum. This guy had a polish translator come visit & without my permission and he had me pay £35 per hour for the privilege. She reported back that I was not feeding mum bad information or trying to get money from her. I purposely never went through the power of attorney as I wanted EVERYTHING to not just be above board but for all the I's to be dotted and T's crossed. I had the two brothers who thieves from my parents home so needed this to be beyond reproach.
This guy ordered a hospital bed and electric wheelchair at the cost of 6K and they both disappeared and I've never seen that money back !
Anyway, mum died September 15 2013 & only because I had personallympaid the 1200 pounds a week was I able to keep the house. It was an awful and draining experience to be scrutinised like that. I guess they only apply how they would do things and expect others to be so circuitous.
I ended up having no choice but to sell the car anyway as the house had 2 elderly people in it and was in a state of disrepair that made it an auction house in reality. I bought a more sensible means of transport & put the money into refurbishing the family home.
In this process my medical conditions and severe deterioration were brought up so not only were they proved wrong but my benefit was significantly put up & backdated. I ended up with 12k in two cheques plus around 80 pound per week more. Karma is a beautiful thing.
Sorry for the long story but it's pertinent to the point and crux of it. I have, to date, not even had a letter from the new benefits people. I know it will happen but now I don't worry about things that have not yet happened. I also trust that the universe balances everything up.
I panic whenever see dressed brown envelopes. I know you will understand this.
In all honesty I don't expect to see out another 2-3 years as the Wegeners was left untreated for too long and my lungs and kidneys, eyes and sinuses are now all involved. The chemo is an attempt to slow the disease down and is not a cure. Maybe, just maybe it will work but I stay grounded and try to be humble. After all is said and done, after all the money is spent and champagne drunk, material stuff used up then ALL we really have left is the lobe we leave behind and our word. A person whose word cannot be trusted is worthless, that's how I see it.
I trust that EVERYTHING that we go through is for a reason. It's either a blessing or a lesson. The pain , I believe is a lesson and I accept it for much of the stuff, bad, very bad stuff that I have done over the years. I accept my payment on this.
So sorry for the essay but I needed to explain the social services thing so that you could get some perspective on what I was going through at that time. I looked at the footstool yesterday, opened it up and saw the reams of paperwork, appeals and complaints and I truly don't know how I got through it. I was seriously ill all throughout this too and had no time to heal or for myself p.us mum, even in her demented state, was very forceful and demanding. I had her to visit daily and dad to care for at home then in hospital. It was the worst nightmare I've experienced....... so far.
@trinity &
@PTFC this may be of interest to you. It really is the précis version too.
Blessimgs upon you all. No one said that life would be easy eh x
