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[rockytop]

I apologize for being snarky to you in our first encounter.  I was having a bad day.  Please forgive /default_smile.png

Soooo funny, I could see how someone would assume that as well!!! Nope, we're just a bunch of sickos that like to laugh and have a lot of fun talking about silly stuff  /default_wacko.png xo, clamjelina jolie

no worries bk..i've only been 'round here for week or so...this is ur house and i don't get easily offended anyway

 

[rockytop]

BAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA. Too funny! I totally get that! Welcome to DBG, iti s good to have you here!

seems to be a core group of few that has a really good (sick) sense of humor..1's on this thread anyway....i can get used to that!

 

[d.j.rek1]

Wholly shit first time I read the WHOLE TOPIC OMFG @dave u have me LMFAO ..... I Luv me some Clams all day ,No BEARDS please lol.....Luv u all I just almost cried with LOL after reading the Topic ...U Ladies are right as the Clam n Boo@ies = POWER .... U Biatcheeeeeeeeezzzzzz lol Luv my family

DJ1

 

[dave2002]

Wholly shit first time I read the WHOLE TOPIC OMFG @dave u have me LMFAO ..... I Luv me some Clams all day ,No BEARDS please lol.....Luv u all I just almost cried with LOL after reading the Topic ...U Ladies are right as the Clam n Boo@ies = POWER .... U Biatcheeeeeeeeezzzzzz lol Luv my family

DJ1

Thanks Dj I think people are way to serious these days. Plus I luv bustin' on people, not in a harmful malicious way just enuff to get them to be themselves. I can dish it and take it too! So lighten up all you overworked distracted trying to keep up with the jones's MFers! Oh yeah have a nice day!

 

[mrwiggums]

Sorry black cat you should be treated wonderful. I hate men that treat ladies badly, it gives all men a bad name. And I'm glad it turns silly and all about clams. Personally I love clams of all size shape and color. But I'm not sure what shark week hast to do with clams lol. But sometimes being silly and goofy is the best medicine.

 

[Rizzo.]

Sorry black cat you should be treated wonderful. I hate men that treat ladies badly, it gives all men a bad name. And I'm glad it turns silly and all about clams. Personally I love clams of all size shape and color. But I'm not sure what shark week hast to do with clams lol. But sometimes being silly and goofy is the best medicine.

Thanks MrWiggums, I'm sure that not all med treat ladies with such disrespect, I'm staying optimistic.

Shark week = the one week per month where the clam is in the shop/out of service ;p

 

[mrwiggums]

Lol I know what you're talking about but I don't get the shark reference lol. And it's not out of service just gotta take extra precautions when opening the clam and make sure you got plenty of napkins to catch the mess haha. Lol no most do, men are assholes, so glad I'm not gay and have to deal with them. I have a friend who is though and it's ridiculous. Aside from that I know other men and most are douches to their women. Being optimistic is always good I am always trying to be upbeat even though sore tired and exhausted from working 37 hrs over the weekend lol. Now it's video game time

 

[Rizzo.]

What are you playing?

 

[mrwiggums]

Well since my ps3 was stolen and can't afford a new one or a ps4 got a wii and got metroid other m the other day lol. You play video games? I miss call of duty on my play station online.

 

[Guest]

Shark week = the week when you should not go swimming in the ocean.

 

[Rizzo.]

What are you playing?

Not so much now that I have a toddler up my butt at all times but I used to like Silent Hill & other zombie killing shit.  I'm not a big gamer.  Sometimes I play House of the deadverkill on my Wii.  Pretty basic stuff. 

Shark week = the week when you should not go swimming in the ocean. /default_smile.png

No lifeguard on duty /default_wink.png 

 

[Babsy]

Can I Sk you B77C do you take pills for an illness or just for recreationally ?

 

[mrwiggums]

Zombie killing is always fun lol. Well I never trusted those dmn lifeguards anyway haha. Ehh I'll still swim in it showers still wash it off lol. And just make sure I throw my beach towel down before hand. /default_wink.png hmm time to do some more shopping lol.

 

[Rizzo.]

Can I Sk you B77C do you take pills for an illness or just for recreationally ?

Technically recreationally, although I diagnose & treat myself so It could be to alleviate an anxiety illness?  Who knows.  All I take basic anti-anxiety meds when I need I need them.

 

[Guest]

Hi Lucy.  It sounds like maybe he is tired and sick?  Can you 2 talk during the day when he is at work? Maybe during his lunch break?  It's amazing what one can cover in a 15 min phone call when there are no kids around.  Although your little is still around.  

Maybe start as if everything is fine.  Nothing makes a man shut down faster than hearing he is not communicating.  

 

[2earls]

I really feel for you LadyMadonna. Especially when you said you keep your weight at 115 so he will like you!

Damn, I expect my husband to love me if I'm 115 or 215 or anything in between.

Maybe you put too much pressure on yourself.

You never know, he might wish things were different as much as you.

Could you try the "date" thing? Just spend a little time alone together.

Go for a walk or have a picnic

not for the purpose of having some big talk but just to enjoy each others company. Rekindling the relationship first and then maybe communication could improve.

If I tell my husband "we need to talk" he wants to head for the hills so I try be less direct. Just bring things up casually in conversation when he's in a good mood.

I think women are more direct and men prefer to beat around the bush (no pun intended)

Good luck, wishing you the best 2E

 

[Phrenicz]

I don't know what to say Lady M :-(.... Like @2earls said, most men are very indirect and find it hard to express any emotions, especially in the tough times.... My brother can only talk about 2 things... Sport and Online gaming!!? Not me, I'm more like a woman than my girlfriend!... wIth us, it's the opposite way round...

I Get the same treatment regarding meds as you do, especially regarding relationship issues! She almost can't take me seriously at times, due to the fact she thinks I'm high or something... Little does she realise, I'm nothing like high, The meds aren't making me happy!! They are purely there to prevent me being unhappy, or god forbid insane!!!

It's hard to really make 'mentally healthy' people aware of just how fucked your head can be sometimes?... It's just the old 'get a grip' scenario all over again.... I suppose it's like living through a war, you can't learn what it was like from books or the TV, you have to have lived through it, fighting for your country and life!... Only then will you be fully aware of what that was like...

I find relationships very tough, as do other friends I have who are on varying meds... Having to explain over and over the reasons you are like you are, when most of the time, you haven't a clue and all of the time, wish you fucking weren't?!!??

On the plus side, you have 5 beautiful children, already your accomplishments and theirs will be the start of your legacy ...

However, I find your weight comment quite sad and distressing? You cannot and must not burden yourself with that extra headfuck...You are who you are, by the sounds of it a beautiful human being... it's what's inside that counts, not the wrapping... That's just a bonus if it's well wrapped ;-)

Anyway, just sayin....

 

[Phrenicz]

Seems to me that you both need to learn to love yourselves again... Instead of hating what you have become?...inherently, you haven't changed, you're just going through a difficult chapter in your book of life.... Maybe you need to concentrate on creating the next chapter?... Only then will you be able to make any decisions on your collective futures... But, yes, that would involve talking it through?.... You're just gonna have to take command of the situation! Don't get me wrong, it's a tough situation and I really can empathise with you...

However, all said, I realise everything I've said is much easier said than done and I sometimes wish I could practise what I preach!?

But, it's hard to be objective when you're the one in the situation and that's the rub!

My thoughts are with you... But, remember, things might be shit at the minute, but take a minute to look at the things you have achieved in the time you've been together?....

Chin up Lady M